How do I know when it is time to stop drinking?
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How do you know when it’s time to stop drinking?

For me it had been coming for a couple of years. The joy had vanished from my evening bottle (or more) of wine long ago and it had become a struggle as I dealt with the mixed emotion of knowing I was drinking too much and wanting to cut down, competing against my thirsty-self who just wanted more and more wine, night after night.

I was a highly-functional drinker, I never had blackouts, didn’t suffer from terrible hangovers (just a constant fuzziness) and hadn’t been sick after drinking. However, I often did and said things I regretted after drinking, had fallen up the stairs on the way to bed a few times and couldn’t remember what I had watched on TV the night before and the amount I was drinking had increased, a few years ago half a bottle would do, now I found myself buying two bottles most days (just in case we ran out).

The nagging voice telling me I needed to cut down me drinking just kept getting louder and louder and in my case there came a point having read a couple of sober books and checked out some of the online alcohol-free communities where I simply decided enough was enough and I broke up my relationship with alcohol then and there (we got divorced from each other, the end), I knew it was time to stop, in fact it was long overdue. I never drank again and never will do.

Each person is different but I think you have to reach a certain point with your own behaviour where you end up telling yourself over and over that it has to change, once you start telling yourself things have to change action will usually follow, normally after a few rounds of telling yourself it is fine just to carry on drinking as you are and ignore the nagging voice of doom.

The great news is that we have never been better equipped to give up drinking, the amount of books and online sober groups ensures that there is genuine support for everyone and you can do it all anonymously if you wish, although most people really enjoy the collaboration and sense of community the sober-groups give them.

So, in short, you know it is time to stop drinking when you are telling yourself it is time to stop drinking, the important thing is to act on this, not to ignore it and convince yourself everything is OK and have another bottle of wine regardless.

When you know it’s time to stop, reach for the books, join the groups and dive into the exciting sober journey with a sense of joy and excitement, because you are about to change your life in the most incredible way and reveal a whole new you.






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  1. clint says:

    This post tallies strongly with where I have just reached and it’s heartening to read that you “never drank again and never will do”. This is interesting because on the one hand you make it sound like it was easy to stop and on the other hand that you have confidence that nothing will get you started again. I’m curious: what makes you so confident and what made it so seemingly painless that you didn’t have lots of false stops and struggles etc… thanks for any helpful insight. Cheers Clint

  2. freeatlast says:

    Hi Clint, thanks for the question – I had a few false starts initially, getting past Day 1 was pretty hard after twenty plus years of drinking. I found reading sober-books such as This Naked Mind by Annie Grace really helped to change my mindset and my relationship with alcohol to the point where I felt like I didn’t want it anymore (as opposed to ‘couldn’t have’ it). As the days and weeks have gone by it has become easier and I actually enjoy the sober-life now so much more than living in alcohol haze. I think the key is changing your midset about alcohol and becoming excited and passionate about being sober. Simon.

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